I’ve had the honor of working with so many women lately that are struggling on a daily basis with perfectionism.
Of not feeling good enough.
Like they are not doing enough.
Like they are not living up to what they should be.
In the words of Kara Loewentheil (my colleague and an amazing life coach btw):
"Perfectionism is the lie you tell yourself, that if you are “good enough” your brain will leave you alone and stop saying mean things to you”
Perfectionism, or trying to do things “just right” is a lie!
First off, It’s a subjective term (one that you’ve invented for yourself, and no one else holds).
Second, the bar of what you define as "perfect" is always changing.
And third, it is an excuse your brain uses to beat yourself up.
This hits home for me.
As you know, I am in the process of creating a full-time career as a life coach.
I left a well-paying job to start this business.
I’ve made some significant financial investments in this business.
And, I’ve made some EPIC mistakes.
Just today I forgot I had a client call, only remembering 30 minutes too late .
*side-note* Thankfully she forgave me for missing our coaching session. Funny how we easily forgive others for being less-than-perfect, but find it hard to forgive ourselves, eh?
Ya’ll everything I am doing right now, IS TOTALLY NOT PERFECT.
BUT… If I don’t do it imperfectly, I won’t do it at all.
And life coaching is my passion. It’s in my blood. It’s who I am and what I do. I am on a mission to empower as many women as possible to speak their truth, set insane goals, and manage their minds to achieve those goals.
And I’m gonna f*ck up.
Because, like you, I’m not perfect.
I’m learning to view my mistakes as progress. Simply put, I’ve decided if I’m not screwing up, I’m not trying hard enough.
If I don’t get at least 10 “no’s” from prospective clients, then I’m not asking enough people.
If I don’t write at least 5 blogs with spelling errors, then I’m spending too much time on spell check, and not enough time producing mind-blowing materials.
If I don’t accidentally screw up my schedule and miss a client call, it’s probably because I don’t have enough clients packed into my day.
In other words, my new goal is to be an “un-perfectionist”.
It is keeping you from growing.
It is keeping you from testing the limits and getting uncomfortable.
Perfectionism keeps you from failing, and if you’re not failing, you’re not evolving.
So join me on this journey to being imperfect.
Ditch the thoughts you have in your mind about how you need to do certain things “perfectly” and replace those thoughts with the goal of screwing up sometimes.
You’ll be amazed at how this new thought feels. Because once you stop thinking that you have to be or do things “perfect” you START thinking about all the big things you can do that are beyond your current capabilities.
And then you just go and do it.
Like starting a business.
Quitting a job you don’t like.
Taking a financial risk and making an investment into a career path that has called to you your entire life.
What do you want to do with this one, great big life that you have?
Stop being perfect.
Get your ass out that door.
And go do it.
And when you fail, TELL me about it! Send me an email so that I can celebrate that failure with you!!!!
Remember…. Discomfort is the currency of growth.
I love you my imperfect momma.
Now go kick some imperfect ass today.